39 Ways to Live, and Not Merely Exist

[shared from across...]
"The proper function of man is to live - not to exist." -- Jack London

Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it.

That's fine, and comfortable, until you have gone through another year without having done anything, without having really lived life.

That's fine, until you have reached old age and look back on life with regrets.

That's fine, until you see your kids go off to college and realize that you missed their childhoods.

It's not fine. If you want to truly live life, to really experience it, to enjoy it to the fullest, instead of barely scraping by and only living a life of existence, then you need to find ways to break free from the mold and drink from life.

What follows is just a list of ideas, obvious ones mostly that you could have thought of yourself, but that I hope are useful reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. If you find this useful, print it out, and start using it. Today.

1)Love. Perhaps the most important. Fall in love, if you aren't already. If you have, fall in love with your partner all over again. Abandon caution and let your heart be broken. Or love family members, friends, anyone -- it doesn't have to be romantic love. Love all of humanity, one person at a time.

2)Get outside. Don't let yourself be shut indoors. Go out when it's raining. Walk on the beach. Hike through the woods. Swim in a freezing lake. Bask in the sun. Play sports, or walk barefoot through grass. Pay close attention to nature.

3)Savor food. Don't just eat your food, but really enjoy it. Feel the texture, the bursts of flavors. Savor every bite. If you limit your intake of sweets, it will make the small treats you give yourself (berries or dark chocolate are my favorites) even more enjoyable. And when you do have them, really, really savor them. Slowly.

4)Create a morning ritual. Wake early and greet the day. Watch the sun rise. Out loud, tell yourself that you will not waste this day, which is a gift. You will be compassionate to your fellow human beings, and live every moment to its fullest. Stretch or meditate or exercise as part of your ritual. Enjoy some coffee.

5)Take chances. We often live our lives too cautiously, worried about what might go wrong. Be bold, risk it all. Quit your job and go to business for yourself (plan it out first!), or go up to that girl you've liked for a long time and ask her out. What do you have to lose?

6)Follow excitement. Try to find the things in life that excite you, and then go after them. Make life one exciting adventure after another (with perhaps some quiet times in between).

7)Find your passion. Similar to the above tip, this one asks you to find your calling. Make your living by doing the thing you love to do. First, think about what you really love to do. There may be many things. Find out how you can make a living doing it. It may be difficult, but you only live once.

8)Get out of your cubicle. Do you sit all day in front of computer, shuffling papers and taking phone calls and chatting on the Internet? Don't waste your days like this. Break free from the cubicle environment, and do your work on a laptop, in a coffee shop, or on a boat, or in a log cabin. This may require a change of jobs, or becoming a freelancer. It's worth it.

9)Turn off the TV. How many hours will we waste away in front of the boob tube? How many hours do we have to live? Do the math, then unplug the TV. Only plug it back in when you have a DVD of a movie you love. Otherwise, keep it off and find other stuff to do. Don't know what to do? Read further.

10)Pull away from Internet. You're reading something on the Internet right now. And, with the exception of this article, it is just more wasting away of your precious time. You cannot get these minutes back. Unplug the Internet, then get out of your office or house. Right now! And go and do something.

11)Travel. Sure, you want to travel some day. When you have vacation time, or when you're older. Well, what are you waiting for? Find a way to take a trip, if not this month, then sometime soon. You may need to sell your car or stop your cable bill and stop eating out to do it, but make it happen. You are too young to not see the world. If need be, find a way to make a living by freelancing, then work while you travel. Only work an hour or two a day. Don't check email but once a week. Then use the rest of the time to see the world.

12)Rediscover what's important. Take an hour and make a list of everything that's important to you. Add to it everything that you want to do in life. Now cut that list down to 4-5 things. Just the most important things in your life. This is your core list. This is what matters. Focus your life on these things. Make time for them.

13)Eliminate everything else. What's going on in your life that's not on that short list? All that stuff is wasting your time, pulling your attention from what's important. As much as possible, simplify your life by eliminating the stuff that's not on your short list, or minimizing it.

14)Exercise. Get off the couch and go for a walk. Eventually try running. Or do some push ups and crunches. Or swim or bike or row. Or go for a hike. Whatever you do, get active, and you'll love it. And life will be more alive.

15)Be positive. Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can't do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Solutions. You can do this!

16)Open your heart. Is your heart a closed bundle of scar tissue? Learn to open it, have it ready to receive love, to give love unconditionally. If you have a problem with this, talk to someone about it. And practice makes perfect.

17)Kiss in the rain. Seize the moment and be romantic. Raining outside? Grab your lover and give her a passionate kiss. Driving home? Stop the car and pick some wildflowers. Send her a love note. Dress sexy for him.

18)Face your fears. What are you most afraid of? What is holding you back? Whatever it is, recognize it, and face it. Do what you are most afraid of. Afraid of heights? Go to the tallest building, and look down over the edge. Only by facing our fears can we be free of them.

19)When you suffer, suffer. Life isn't all about fun and games. Suffering is an inevitable part of life. We lose our jobs. We lose our lovers. We lose our pets. We get physically injured or sick. A loved one becomes sick. A parent dies. Learn to feel the pain intensely, and really grieve. This is a part of life -- really feel the pain. And when you're done, move on, and find joy.

20)Slow down. Life moves along at such a rapid pace these days. It's not healthy, and it's not conducive to living. Practice doing everything slowly -- everything, from eating to walking to driving to working to reading. Enjoy what you do. Learn to move at a snail's pace.

21)Touch humanity. Get out of your house and manicured neighborhoods, and find those who live in worse conditions. Meet them, talk to them, understand them. Live among them. Be one of them. Give up your materialistic lifestyle.

22)Volunteer. Help at homeless soup kitchens. Learn compassion, and learn to help ease the suffering of others. Help the sick, those with disabilities, those who are dying.

23)Play with children. Children, more than anyone else, know how to live. They experience everything in the moment, fully. When they get hurt, they really cry. When they play, they really have fun. Learn from them, instead of thinking you know so much more than them. Play with them, and learn to be joyful like them.

24)Talk to old people. There is no one wiser, more experienced, more learned, than those who have lived through life. They can tell you amazing stories. Give you advice on making a marriage last or staying out of debt. Tell you about their regrets, so you can learn from them and avoid the same mistakes. They are the wisdom of our society -- take advantage of their existence while they're still around.

25)Learn new skills. Constantly improve yourself instead of standing still -- not because you're so imperfect now, but because it is gratifying and satisfying. You should accept yourself as you are, and learn to love who you are, but still try to improve -- if only because the process of improvement is life itself.

26)Find spirituality. For some, this means finding God or Jesus or Allah or Buddha. For others, this means becoming in tune with the spirits of our ancestors, or with nature. For still others, this just means an inner energy. Whatever spirituality means for you, rediscover it, and its power.

27)Take mini-retirements. Don't leave the joy of retirement until you are too old to enjoy it. Do it now, while you're young. It makes working that much more worth it. Find ways to take a year off every few years. Save up, sell your home, your possessions, and travel. Live simply, but live, without having to work. Enjoy life, then go back to work and save up enough money to do it again in a couple of years.

29)Do nothing. Despite the tip above that we should find excitement, there is value in doing nothing as well. Not doing nothing as in reading, or taking a nap, or watching TV, or meditating. Doing nothing as in sitting there, doing nothing. Just learning to be still, in silence, to hear our inner voice, to be in tune with life. Do this daily if possible.

30)Stop playing video games. They might be fun, but they can take up way too much time. If you spend a lot of time playing online games, or computer solitaire, or Wii or Gameboy or whatever, consider going a week without it. Then find something else to do, outside.

31)Watch sunsets, daily. One of the most beautiful times of day. Make it a daily ritual to find a good spot to watch the sunset, perhaps having a light dinner while you do so.

32)Stop reading magazines. They're basically crap. And they waste your time and money. Cancel your subscriptions and walk past them at the news stands. If you have to read something, read a trashy novel or even better, read Dumb Little Man once a day and be done.

33)Break out from ruts. Do you do things the same way every day? Change it up. Try something new. Take a different route to work. Start your day out differently. Approach work from a new angle. Look at things from new perspectives.

34)Stop watching the news. It's depressing and useless. If you're a news junky, this may be difficult. I haven't watch TV news or read a newspaper regularly in about two years. It hasn't hurt me a bit. Anything important, my mom tells me about.

35)Laugh till you cry. Laughing is one of the best ways to live. Tell jokes and laugh your head off. Watch an awesome comedy. Learn to laugh at anything. Roll on the ground laughing. You'll love it.

36)Lose control. Not only control over yourself, but control over others. It's a bad habit to try to control others -- it will only lead to stress and unhappiness for yourself and those you try to control. Let others live, and live for yourself. And lose control of yourself now and then too.

37)Cry. Men, especially, tend to hold in our tears, but crying is an amazing release. Cry at sad movies. Cry at a funeral. Cry when you are hurt, or when somebody you love is hurt. It releases these emotions and allows us to cleanse ourselves.

38)Make an awesome dessert. I like to make warm, soft chocolate cake. But even berries dipped in chocolate, or crepes with ice cream and fruit, or fresh apple pie, or homemade chocolate chip cookies or brownies, are great. This isn't an every day thing, but an occasional treat thing. But it's wonderful.

39)Try something new, every week. Ask yourself: "What new thing shall I try this week?" Then be sure to do it. You don't have to learn a new language in one week, but seek new experiences. Give it a try. You might decide you want to keep it in your life.

Be in the moment. Instead of thinking about things you need to do, or things that have happened to you, or worrying or planning or regretting, think about what you are doing, right now. What is around you? What smells and sounds and sights and feelings are you experiencing? Learn to do this as much as possible through meditation, but also through bringing your focus back to the present as much as you can in everything you do.

[This article was written for Dumblittleman.com] Written on 6/19/2007 by Leo Babauta, a writer, a runner and a vegetarian, and the owner of Zen Habits. This article was republished on 6/28/09.

...family...

“Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.”
— Anthony Brandt

...gratitude...

When you exist in the great state of gratitude, you become a person who only wants to give. You become so grateful that it takes over your life, and you can't find enough opportunities in a day to give. You give joy, you give love, you give money, you give appreciation, you give compliments, and you give kindness. You give the best of yourself in your job, in your relationships, and to strangers.

You will know when you have really found true gratitude, because you will become a giver. One who is truly grateful cannot be anything else.

you define your own life...

"You define your own life. Don't let other people write your script."

*Success Redefined*

*Success Redefined*

Every effort brings me closer,
When it is so near,
I feel like a winner,
Yet losing it I can't bear,

Many stories told,
Setting examples for many,
I need to be bold,
As I want to standout from many,

Every failures brings me closer,
Through sheer determination,
I vow not to be a loser,
Through learning by inspiration,

Success is 99% perspiration,
Nothing is ever achieved without sweat,
And a lot of preparation,
I will, and again I'll succeed and be great!!!

My Love For You...

My Love For You...

You taught me patient,
When I was ill-tempered,
You taught me sefless,
When I was selfish,

Our love blossom from that smile,
The same smile which melts my heart,
When i'm down, i think of your smile,
That cute little smile of art,

You taught me caring,
When i lost my bearing,
You taught me sharing,
When i lost my pairing,

Our first date spent on porridge,
That lovely bowl of hot emotions,
It was then we formed our bridge,
To our ever long lasting LOVE potions!

I'LL ALWAYS LOVE YOU DEAR, each day, each hour, each second, each moment, each laughter, each smile, each hot tempting bowl of porridge that we spend together! 520530!!! ^_^

what you know about passion?!?!

"If you don't know what your passion is, realize that one reason for your existence on earth is to find it."

...about poem...

"A great poem can move you, shake you and remind you what it is to be human."

— Oprah

..poetry..part2...

So come to the pond,
or the river of your imagination,
or the harbor of your longing,
and put your lips to the world.
— Mary Oliver

Poetry...

“Poetry can startle you, awaken you, make you fall in love, take your breath away. When those words sink in, you'll never look at your life or your journey the same way again.”
— Maria Shriver, guest editor

change... moving on...

When a big change occurs in your life it forces you to change direction. Sometimes the new path may not be easy, but you can be absolutely certain that there is magnificence for you on the new path. You can be absolutely certain that the new path contains things that you could not have experienced otherwise.

When we look back at a negative event that occurred in the past, we often see how in fact it transformed our life. We see how that event directed us toward a life that we would not change for anything.

...challenging experience...

"I know for sure that in every challenging experience there's an opportunity to grow, enhance your life or learn something invaluable about yourself."

Yourself...

“Act as a master of your life by putting your health, well-being and happiness first.”
—  Marianna Olszewski

Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren't sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail. The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do.

1. Get specific. When you set yourself a goal, try to be as specific as possible. "Lose 5 pounds" is a better goal than "lose some weight," because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like. Knowing exactly what you want to achieve keeps you motivated until you get there. Also, think about the specific actions that need to be taken to reach your goal. Just promising you'll "eat less" or "sleep more" is too vague — be clear and precise. "I'll be in bed by 10pm on weeknights" leaves no room for doubt about what you need to do, and whether or not you've actually done it.

2. Seize the moment to act on your goals. Given how busy most of us are, and how many goals we are juggling at once, it's not surprising that we routinely miss opportunities to act on a goal because we simply fail to notice them. Did you really have no time to work out today? No chance at any point to return that phone call? Achieving your goal means grabbing hold of these opportunities before they slip through your fingers.
To seize the moment, decide when and where you will take each action you want to take, in advance. Again, be as specific as possible (e.g., "If it's Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, I'll work out for 30 minutes before work.") Studies show that this kind of planning will help your brain to detect and seize the opportunity when it arises, increasing your chances of success by roughly 300%.

3. Know exactly how far you have left to go. Achieving any goal also requires honest and regular monitoring of your progress — if not by others, then by you yourself. If you don't know how well you are doing, you can't adjust your behavior or your strategies accordingly. Check your progress frequently — weekly, or even daily, depending on the goal.

4. Be a realistic optimist. When you are setting a goal, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking about how likely you are to achieve it. Believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining your motivation. But whatever you do, don't underestimate how difficult it will be to reach your goal. Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence. Studies show that thinking things will come to you easily and effortlessly leaves you ill-prepared for the journey ahead, and significantly increases the odds of failure.

5. Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Believing you have the ability to reach your goals is important, but so is believing you can get the ability. Many of us believe that our intelligence, our personality, and our physical aptitudes are fixed — that no matter what we do, we won't improve. As a result, we focus on goals that are all about proving ourselves, rather than developing and acquiring new skills.
Fortunately, decades of research suggest that the belief in fixed ability is completely wrong — abilities of all kinds are profoundly malleable. Embracing the fact that you can change will allow you to make better choices, and reach your fullest potential. People whose goals are about getting better, rather than being good, take difficulty in stride, and appreciate the journey as much as the destination.

6. Have grit. Grit is a willingness to commit to long-term goals, and to persist in the face of difficulty. Studies show that gritty people obtain more education in their lifetime, and earn higher college GPAs. Grit predicts which cadets will stick out their first grueling year at West Point. In fact, grit even predicts which round contestants will make it to at the Scripps National Spelling Bee.
The good news is, if you aren't particularly gritty now, there is something you can do about it. People who lack grit more often than not believe that they just don't have the innate abilities successful people have. If that describes your own thinking .... well, there's no way to put this nicely: you are wrong. As I mentioned earlier, effort, planning, persistence, and good strategies are what it really takes to succeed. Embracing this knowledge will not only help you see yourself and your goals more accurately, but also do wonders for your grit.

7. Build your willpower muscle. Your self-control "muscle" is just like the other muscles in your body — when it doesn't get much exercise, it becomes weaker over time. But when you give it regular workouts by putting it to good use, it will grow stronger and stronger, and better able to help you successfully reach your goals.
To build willpower, take on a challenge that requires you to do something you'd honestly rather not do. Give up high-fat snacks, do 100 sit-ups a day, stand up straight when you catch yourself slouching, try to learn a new skill. When you find yourself wanting to give in, give up, or just not bother — don't. Start with just one activity, and make a plan for how you will deal with troubles when they occur ("If I have a craving for a snack, I will eat one piece of fresh or three pieces of dried fruit.") It will be hard in the beginning, but it will get easier, and that's the whole point. As your strength grows, you can take on more challenges and step-up your self-control workout.

8. Don't tempt fate. No matter how strong your willpower muscle becomes, it's important to always respect the fact that it is limited, and if you overtax it you will temporarily run out of steam. Don't try to take on two challenging tasks at once, if you can help it (like quitting smoking and dieting at the same time). And don't put yourself in harm's way — many people are overly-confident in their ability to resist temptation, and as a result they put themselves in situations where temptations abound. Successful people know not to make reaching a goal harder than it already is.

9. Focus on what you will do, not what you won't do. Do you want to successfully lose weight, quit smoking, or put a lid on your bad temper? Then plan how you will replace bad habits with good ones, rather than focusing only on the bad habits themselves. Research on thought suppression (e.g., "Don't think about white bears!") has shown that trying to avoid a thought makes it even more active in your mind. The same holds true when it comes to behavior — by trying not to engage in a bad habit, our habits get strengthened rather than broken.
If you want change your ways, ask yourself, What will I do instead? For example, if you are trying to gain control of your temper and stop flying off the handle, you might make a plan like "If I am starting to feel angry, then I will take three deep breaths to calm down." By using deep breathing as a replacement for giving in to your anger, your bad habit will get worn away over time until it disappears completely.
It is my hope that, after reading about the nine things successful people do differently, you have gained some insight into all the things you have been doing right all along. Even more important, I hope are able to identify the mistakes that have derailed you, and use that knowledge to your advantage from now on. Remember, you don't need to become a different person to become a more successful one. It's never what you are, but what you do.
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a motivational psychologist, and author of the new book Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals (Hudson Street Press, 2011). She is also an expert blogger on motivation and leadership for Fast Company and Psychology Today. Her personal blog, The Science of Success, can be found at www.heidigranthalvorson.com. Follow her on Twitter @hghalvorson

...challenges...

"Every challenge can make you stronger if you allow it. Strength multiplied = power."

...Happiness...

Every human being on the planet wants to be happy. Anything that anyone desires is because they think their desire will make them happy. Whether it is health, money, a loving relationship, material things, accomplishments, a job, or anything at all, the desire for happiness is the bottom line of all of them. But remember that happiness is a state inside of us, and something on the outside can only bring fleeting happiness, because material things are impermanent.

Permanent happiness comes from you choosing to be permanently happy. When you choose happiness, then you attract all the happy things as well. The happy things are the icing on the cake, but the cake is happiness.

~poem~

“A poem begins in delight and ends in wisdom.”
— Robert Frost

~Love~

“Love is an energy. You can feed it to people, and they in turn feed it to others, and eventually it comes back.”
— Hill Harper

Strength, Courage & Confidence...

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. ... You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt

2011 Resolutions

2011 RESOLUTIONS

*Manage my temper
*Manage my finances
*Spend more time with family, loved ones & close friends
*Buy my own property
*Seek personal contentment & simplicity
*Be happier, more positive & independent
*Reflect & Act
*Seek for side/passive income

Starts your day with some "Creativity..."

“The point of creativity is to express and challenge yourself, to make meaning, to embrace your life.”
— Peggy Orenstein

The Secret...

No-one is destined to live a life of poverty, because each of us has the ability to change everything in this life. The law of attraction is the law of creation, and it allows each person to create the life they want. Every person has their own unique circumstances to overcome, but every single person has the opportunity to achieve anything - and change everything.

Today on 11.1.11...

"No matter where you stand right now—on a hilltop, in a gutter, at a crossroads, in a rut—you need to give yourself the best you have to offer in this moment."

—  Oprah

Lovely…Dovey…Dear…

You are cute and daring,
With your wits and caring,
You maybe fussy and worrying,
With your bits and pouring,

Your laughter makes my day,
Cheer me up when I’m down,
Your smile puts me at bay,
Whenever I’m sad and frown,

I can’t believe you are here,
To be with me since day one,
Although there are rules to adhere,
To make this relationship hone,

I miss you is 530,
Our missing you code,
I love you is 520,
Our loving you code,

Day in, Night out,
We miss and love each other out,
Hours gone, Seconds gone,
Counting down the gap we have gone,

The last six months was beautiful,
Seeing this relationship grow and joyful,
Hoping the next six will be even wonderful,
As our love for each other become bountiful… 520!!! 530!!!

Sometimes I ponder...

Sometimes I wonder, 
Are we meant to be together,
Sometimes you actions makes me ponder,
What are we when we are together,

Do we seem like a couple,
Or we are just a double,
Am I causing the trouble,
But I don't wish to see us crumble,

I tried and tried,
You avoid and avoid,
I'm kind of getting tired,
Slowly I can see the void,

Orh please give me a break,
Am I so hard to please,
Am I too fast and need to brake,
I just hope everything will to come an ease...

~let's have some "alone" time :)

"Alone time is when I distance myself from the voices of the world so I can hear my own." — Oprah

...be fearless...

"Be fearless. Have the courage to take risks. Go where there are no guarantees." - Katie Couric

positive good thoughts...

Do not worry at all about negative thoughts, and do not try to control them. All you have to do is begin to think good thoughts each day. Plant as many good thoughts as you can in each day. As you begin to think good thoughts you will attract more and more good thoughts, and eventually the good thoughts will wipe out the negative thoughts altogether.

...life as it is...

"You can't accomplish anything worthwhile if you inhibit yourself. If life teaches you nothing else, know this for sure: When you get the chance, go for it."

...appreciation...

"we tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have." - Frederick Keonig

~quote of the day~

"Loving what you do is the secret to everything." — Julia Roberts, actress

...our life from now and forward...

I may not be perfect,
As I have my own flaws,
Forgive me of my defect,
They are just my life ploughs,

I know this won’t be easy,
As we try to compliment each other,
My past may be messy,
But I’ll do my best not to bother,

Sometimes I may be overreacted,
No one to blame but myself,
Do forgive me for my own sillyness overrated,
SORRY SORRY SORRY from D to B Yourself!

"CHANGE"

"It's a simple solution...you change one thing, and suddenly you've changed everything." — Rebecca Onie, founder of Project Health

~sweet july 9th~

Ooo mine ooo mine sweet July 9,
A day to remember and remind,
You brought me sweet memories aligned,
I couldn’t stop thinking of you in mind,

A start of a new beginning,
With many sweet moments and counting,
You keep me awake daydreaming,
As though I could hear your heart beating,

Your presence brings new meaning,
To my and your life alike,
Every time I see you I can’t stop beaming,
It’s like the thunder & lightning alike,

Ooo mine ooo mine sweet July 9,
A day to cherish without time,
Hoping each moment will last till 99,
We’ll see this through our time...

"gap"

You may draw us apart,
Reminding us of our part,
Not to forgotten our pact,
Understanding and appreciation we shall act,

You may remind us of our walks,
The things we care and share,
All our giggles and talks,
No matter what the gap, we shall bear,

As this is the start of a thousand miles journey,
With many more hurdles and gaps,
Regardless, we’ll continue to walk and talk till moony,
Even if it means to cross and brave the Alps,

You “gap” will only draw us closer,
Not without bitter but even sweeter,
As we gazed upon our journey of meaner,
This “gap” will define our personality and character!

health thru joy...

"The essence of all health begins through joyful living." — Jesse Dylan

Wat a day?!?!

...beauty...

"Finding your beauty isn't about looking exactly like everyone else. It's about accepting yourself—the parts you love and the parts you don't—and then working with all of it." — Scott Barnes

Today's Quote of the day...

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” — Paul Boese

Spell (by Marie Digby)

Spotlight shining brightly, on my face
I can’t see a thing and yet I feel you walking my way
Empty stage, with nothing but this girl
Singing this simple melody and
Wearing her heart on her sleeve

And right now
I have you, for a moment I can tell I’ve got you
Cuz your lips don’t move
Something is happening
Cuz your eyes tell me the truth
I’ve put a spell over you

Beauty emanates from every word that you can say
You’ve captured the deepest thoughts
In the purest, and simplest of ways
But you see, I’m not that graceful, Like you
Nor am I as eloquent
But just a simple melody
Can change the way that you see me

And right now
I have you, for a moment I can tell I’ve got you
Cuz your lips don’t move
Something is happening
Cuz your eyes tell me the truth
I’ve put a spell over you

And all my life I’ve stumbled
But up here I am just perfect
Perfect as I’ll, ever be

I have you, for a moment
I can tell I’ve got you
Cuz your lips don’t move
And something is happening
Cuz your eyes tell me the truth
I’ve put a spell over you

quote for today...

“Act as a master of your life by putting your health, well being and happiness first.”
— Marianna Olszewski

...confusion...

Your visit makes me ponder,
Many hows and whys which I can’t figure,
Will LIFE be better without you I wonder?,
As you leave me with more unknowns and unsure,

Sighed... is the feeling you brought,
Nothing but more sighed and headache,
Sometimes I wish I could just let go of the thought,
Hoping that this will save some heartache,

It may be painful to let you go,
But this may be the best way,
Hoping time will heal as we forgo,
As I heaved my last sighed away,

Orh confusion, you are indeed part of my LIFE,
I guess you thought me many meanings,
As I continue to seek, learn and simplify my LIFE,
Hopefully this confusion will signify a new beginning... as I’m confused...

knowledge and feelings...

“Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge.”
— Audre Lorde

...about LIFE...

“Life engenders life. Energy creates energy. It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich.” — Sarah Bernhardt

happy thursday!!!

"The only place where you can or need to be free is this moment. Not the rest of your life. Just now." - Eckhart Tolle

...change... the common denominator!

Trying to change someone is a waste of time. The very thought of changing someone is saying that they are not good enough as they are, and it is soaked with judgment and disapproval. That is not a thought of appreciation or love, and those thoughts will only bring separation between you and that person.

You must look for the good in people to have more of it appear. As you look only for the good things in a person, you will be amazed at what your new focus reveals.

May the joy be with you!

...give it a thought...it's true!!!

“Excellence is a combination of passion and focus. When you have passion for what you are doing and get your focus in the right place, everything else will follow. Embrace the moment.”
— Terry Orlick, PhD

~quote of the day~

“There are some things you learn best in calm, and some
in storm.”
— Willa Cather

I Got You - Leona Lewis

A place to crash, I got you
No need to ask, I got you
Just get on the phone, I got you
Come and pick you up if I have to

What's weird about it is we're right at the end
And mad about it, just figured it out in my head
I'm proud to say, I got you

Go ahead and say goodbye, I'll be alright
Go ahead and make me cry, I'll be alright
And when you need a place to run to
For better, for worse, I got you, I got you

Ain't falling apart or bitter, let's be bigger than that
And remember the cooling outdoor when you're all alone
We'll go on surviving, no drama, no need for a show
Just wanna say, I got you

Go ahead and say goodbye, I'll be alright
Go ahead and make me cry, I'll be alright
And when you need a place to run to
For better, for worse, I got you

Go ahead and say goodbye
(Go ahead)
I'll be alright
(Say goodbye)

Go ahead and make me cry
I'll be alright
And when you need a place to run to
For better, for worse, I got you

'Cause this is love and life
And nothing we can both control
And if it don't feel right
You're not losing me by letting me know

Go ahead and say goodbye
(Say goodbye)
I'll be alright

Go ahead and make me cry
I'll be alright
And when you need a place to run to
For better, for worse, I got you

Go ahead and say goodbye
(Go ahead)
I'll be alright
(Say goodbye)

Go ahead and make me cry, I'll be alright
And when you need a place to run to
For better, for worse, I got you

A place to crash, I got you
No need to ask, I got you

~quote of the day~

"Try seeing your world and yourself this way, eyes open to whatever is before you, mind free of dichotomies. Are you good or bad, fragile or tough, wise or foolish? Yes. And so am I." — Martha Beck

everything happens for a reason...

"I don't believe in accidents. I know for sure that everything in life happens to help us live." - Oprah

joy ^_^

“Surely joy is the condition of life.”
— Henry David Thoreau

my favourite quote...

"The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; They just make the most of everything they have."

quote for the day...

"Reading gives you the ability to reach higher ground."

for today...

"If life teaches you nothing else, know this for sure: When you get the chance, go for it."

the lizard story...

~gemini (May 22 - Jun 21)~

The third sector of the zodiac, Gemini is all about intelligence and communication. You're born under this sign and have a talent for and love of using your minds and expressing yourself fully.

As a Gemini, you are a bower bird, mentally, and take an interest in all sorts of different things. Anything that gets your mind ticking over will grab you. You constantly try to challenge your mental abilities and will make extra efforts to understand anything you put your mind to.

You can抰 understand why other people don抰 feel the same way. To you, this kind of stimulation is your life blood. Anyone who engages you in quick-witted and thoughtful banter will win your heart for sure.

Some great communicators are born under your sign ?actresses Helen Hunt and Marilyn Monroe, for instance. Like them, you take interest in anything that requires a little brain power. Reading and ferreting out information on the internet are a perfect way for you to unwind. Communication would have to be one of your favourite pastimes.

Taking up acting classes wouldn抰 be a bad idea either, even if you don抰 fancy yourself as an Emmy Award winner. Meeting new people and sharing your thoughts and feelings with them is enough of a blast for you.

Not all Geminis have brains on the brain, though. Anna Kournikova, the tennis superstar, proves that ?she puts her focus into physical exercise. She is a superb tennis player which requires physical dexterity and mental agility as well.

Gemini is also on the top of the list of achievers in sport. But the sport you get into will be one that requires a strategic and intellectual approach. If it doesn抰, it won抰 sustain your interest. Tennis, chess, golf and card games like bridge and canasta appeal to you.

If you could be accused of anything, it would be that you spread yourself too thinly, by being interested in too many things. To some people, you seem superficial and flighty. It抯 the 憆olling stone gathering no moss?thing ?doing a bit of this and a bit of that and not getting deeply into any one thing.

You see it differently, of course. To you life is a smorgasbord, and you抮e going to taste everything. Trying just one main course, so to speak, isn抰 your thing. Variety, diversity and experimentation are some of your key words. And you can always say, 慉t least I抣l never be boring!?

The fact that you take on so much also means you risk wearing yourself out and letting your vitality engine slow down. It is not easy for you to pace yourself, but if you can get your self-discipline working on this, you can achieve more than most. Make sure you have enough fuel in your gas tank to get you to where you want to go.

People always love your company ?your adaptability makes you interesting. People are amazed at your versatility, at the way you manage to juggle so many different activities. Is there anything you don抰 try your hand at? They wonder.

Learning will always be one of your passions ?you don抰 believe there抯 ever a good time to limit someone抯 desire to improve their mind.

You have a great love of the written as well as the spoken word, and will often put pen to paper ?or hands to keyboard ?to get your own thoughts down. Sometimes this is just so you can work out what you think about a particular issue or event. Lots of journalists, writers, and advisers are Geminis; their way with words is their best tool for making a lasting impression.

You also have a strong connection to travel and short journeys. You抣l often feel restless, and your itchy feet will set you wandering. These journeys may not be long, but there will be plenty of them ?you抮e always on the go. You are thirsty for new experiences, and even on short journeys or in transit, you抣l throw yourself into meeting new and unusual people.

You抮e fascinated by psychology and the way human relationships work, so you will seek a life partner who is as into communication as you are. You will need this sort of person if you are to achieve emotional fulfilment.

You are the type of person friends and relatives turn to for advice on their love life. This has an upside for you too ?it helps you understand what抯 going on in your own life, romantically speaking.

Geminis seem to grow younger rather than older. Physically, you will maintain a youthful glow, and you will never lose your fun-loving liveliness. You抮e really not into that 'growing old gracefully' thing.

Vitality and constant stimulation are what you are about. A peaceful old age is definitely not your cup of tea (even if you happen to be over 60).

experiences...

"I know for sure that all experiences contribute to who we're meant to be."

LIFE by Chetan Bhagat

obsession with one's thought...

"I realized that if I'm obsessing about my own feelings, I'm not present with the people around me—and am frankly of no use to them. " — Jane Lynch

Happy Birthday DAD!!!

You are a man of few words,
But I happen to be a son, who’s the opposite,
Once you speak, you speak of wisdom,
Although sometimes your words bites,

Spending most of your time on the couch,
Watching & relaxing with the TV and environment,
During your weekend, you love to chill on the couch,
It’s your favourite place to be with enlightenment,

We do have much in common,
Although we hardly talk much except some jokes,
I can sense that you’re always there when I mourn,
Sometimes we share some light laughter without brakes,

DAD... orh... DAD...
Those are the three letters word I used daily,
It reminds me how much I missed you DAD,
Wishing you a great birthday and more to come yearly!!!

Love you always,
Your Son... LSK!

thoughts for today...

Isn't it great to know that you cannot control your world from the outside? To try and control things on the outside feels impossible because it would take so much work, and in fact it is impossible according to the law of attraction.

To change your world all you have to do is manage your thoughts and feelings on the inside of you, and then your whole world changes.

Refreshed... Re-organized... Restart...

I guess it's time to do it all over again... just that this time, it'll be different... it'll be better... it'll be greater... hopefully....

I want to be different, I want to do great things...!!!

...dreams...

"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it..." — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

...thoughts...

It’s been a while since I wrote my last post. I admit I haven’t really been myself lately. There were many situations that I’ve come across and have to learn along the way. Sometimes I just wish life could be as “simple” as that but in reality it’s not. Never felt so defeated or defenceless for some time. Maybe I was just too comfortable in my own comfort zone till I’ve forgotten that there is a big world out there with many more great challenges waiting to be taken on. Me being me will always try to take on those challenges and if possible double them up. But guessed what, sometimes machines do breakdown guessed the same goes for human. I hope by just going for some breaths won’t make me much of less capable and more fragile. Really, still couldn’t believe it that there were so many instances that almost tested me to the core. Perhaps for some, these are just trivial matters. Hmmm... Maybe it’s really time for me to outgrown myself and become the real “man” I’m supposed to be. By facing each problem with great anticipation, wisdom and patient. They said a “real man” is not measured by how much he knows or owns but by how well he could perceived and solved things that presented to him with great minds and considering all the possible consequences and outcomes.

Happy Mother’s Day

You brought me to this world,
Unknowingly one day I’ll be the man,
You taught me to be bold,
To face all problems like a man,

When I was defeated and down,
You are always there for me,
But it’s time for me to be on my own,
Facing the world without blame,

I know I do have my flaws and mistakes,
Learning them each day without surrender,
Sometimes I do lose myself in the edges,
To find the hard way out and I’ll remember,

Mother your loved and care,
I know I can never return in bare,
But I hope I could there,
For you, anytime, anywhere,

Mother, although you have aged,
But in my heart you’ll always be that loving mother,
One that relentlessly cared and shared,
Let’s us all celebrate our Mother’s Day together,

Mummy, Happy Mother’s Day!!! :)

Love ya always,
LSK

Good Morning! Have a nice day! :)

"There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative."

Good Morning! Have a nice day! :)

law of attraction?!?!

"To attract something that you want, become as joyful as you think that thing would make you. The joy, not the thing, is the point." — Martha Beck

every cloud has a silver lining?!?! is it true...

Look for the gifts in everything, especially when you are facing what appears to be a negative situation. Everything that we attract causes us to grow, which means that ultimately everything is for our own good.

Adjusting to a new path and a new direction will require new qualities and strengths, and these qualities are always exactly what we need to acquire in order to accomplish the great things ahead in our life.

life...beauty...

“Real beauty isn't about symmetry or weight or makeup; it's about looking life right in the face and seeing all its magnificence reflected in your own.”
— Valerie Monroe

I wish…

I wish I’m rich and healthy,

Always be happy and wealthy,

Nothing to worry or pity,

Like Eddy the Happy-Go-Lucky,

But life is not always that case,

We are constantly burden with stress,

Nothing seems to be working or at ease,

As we continue to think for less,

I wish I’m good temper and caring,

Always in good mood and listening,

Nothing to bother or concerning,

Like Eddy the Happy-Go-Outstanding,

But life is much more than that,

Arguments and debates apart,

Sometimes unwanted thoughts are bombast,

As we continue to live for our part,

I wish I’m thoughtful and humble,

Always be appreciated and stable,

Nothing to dissatisfied or mumble,

Like Eddy the Happy-Go-Able,

But again life is too much to handle,

As these are traits of a noble,

No human being can be so able,

As we continue to seek our capable,

I wish I could stop dreaming,

Always enjoy my life living,

Nothing to be excusing but plenty of hoping,

Like Eddy the Happy-Go-Simplifying!!!

As I continue to wish for my wishes…LIFE will go ON!!!

~quote for today's Monday~

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie

~quote of the day~

“The ultimate in being healthy is to operate at full throttle— physically, emotionally, and spiritually.” — Oprah

This is "ATTITUDE"

IF AN EGG IS BROKEN BY AN OUTSIDE FORCE..A LIFE ENDS. IF AN EGG BREAKS FROM WITHIN...... .LIFE BEGINS. GREAT THINGS ALWAYS BEGIN FROM WITHIN .

IT ' S BETTER TO LOSE YOUR EGO TO THE ONE YOU LOVE. THAN TO LOSE THE ONE YOU LOVE ........ BECAUSE OF EGO

WHY WE HAVE SO MANY TEMPLES , IF GOD IS EVERYWHERE ?
A WISE MAN SAID : AIR IS EVERYWHERE, BUT WE STILL NEED A FAN TO FEEL IT .

WHEN YOU TRUST SOMEONE TRUST HIM COMPLETELY WITHOUTANY DOUBT....... AT THE END YOU WOULD GET ONE OF THE TWO : EITHER A LESSON FOR YOUR LIFE OR A VERY GOOD PERSON

LIFE IS NOT ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO ACT TRUE TO YOUR FACE .........
IT ' S ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO REMAIN TRUE BEHIND YOUR BACK

SOLDIER : SIR WE ARE SURROUNDED FROM ALL SIDES BY ENEMIES ,
MAJOR : EXCELLENT ! WE CAN ATTACK IN ANY DIRECTION.

"You never conquer a mountain. You stand on the summit a few moments; then the wind blows your footprints away."-Arlene Blum

“I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.” Chinese proverb

“The greatest waste in the world is the difference between what we are and what we could become.” Ben Herbste

A.T.T.I.T.U.D.E = 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5=100%!!!

Free Undelete

Proper Usage Techniques
A deleted file is essentially an area on disk designated as free and ready to accept data (such as contents of some other file). Luckily, unless the area has already been overwritten, it still holds the contents of the deleted file. Due to this fact it is possible to undelete files.
This fact also dictates the following procedure for using FreeUndelete:

1. Stop any activity on the disk you are going to undelete files from! Remember that writing to that disk can damage the contents of the deleted files. Examples of disastrous activity include: copying files to the disk, installing programs there or running programs that use the disk as their swap media.

2. Download and install FreeUndelete. Whenever possible, save the setup executable and install the program to a disk that does not hold files you need to undelete.

3. Run and use FreeUndelete.

Tip: It is common that the only drive user has is C: and this is also the drive from where files need to be undeleted. In that case a good solution is using a USB flash drive as FreeUndelete download and install destination.

Luck meet Opportunity...

"I believe luck is preparation meeting opportunity. If you hadn't been prepared when the opportunity came along, you wouldn't have been 'lucky.'"

~Happiness~

“Happiness is in your ability to love others.”
— Leo Tolstoy

~simple quote yet not so easy to do~

“The most powerful tool we have for changing our environment is our ability to change ourselves.”

— Stephanie Matthews-Simonton

my valentine...

From the day I know you,

Till today you've always been great,

I could not believe how lucky I was to have you,

You are to like my greatest treat,

You never complain how lucky I was,

While there were times I took things for granted,

Only to realised later on how silly I was,

Sure I need to learn, improve & be contented,

You taught me how to be patient, happy & caring,

I do remember your advice and will always keep in mind,

I know sometimes I have my temper during my losing,

But I believe I'm able to change when we bind,

You are kind-hearted, friendly, thoughtful, happy-go-lucky, bubbly & caring,

But you are much more than that to me,

You meant a lot to me especially during our good and bad timing,

Since then I've stopped using "me" or "I" but always "WE",

Although this is our first valentine together,

I do believe there are many more to come,

When we believe & build our trust in it,

Nothing can affect or bother us,

Until the day when we can share, care, understand in our little home sweet home,

Let's continue to build this sweet, happy & meaningful relationship,

I'll continue to treasure, appreciate & be grateful to you,

We should continue to steer clear any obstacles that comes to our ship,

Last but not least, please forgive me of any wrongdoings or misbehave as I don't meant them but only to LOVE YOU MORE... HAPPY VALENTINE FOREVER DEAR!!!

~quote of the day~

"As we witnessed what seems impossible, we began again to believe in miracles. It made us all just want to be better, fly higher, do more." - Oprah

Life... Orh... Life...

Life is full of ups and downs,
Downs are there to teach us to be strong,
Never to give up on life or frown,
Caused the day will come for us to be “ONG”,

One moment you may have everything,
The next moment you may lose them,
It’s the time spent and the being,
That counts and brings greater meaning to them,

In life, there are no true winners,
Nor there are no true losers,
It’s we, whom live this life without sinner,
That makes this LIFE and us a real gainer,

We should not blame LIFE for downs,
But appreciate them with both hands,
Our luck could be just lurking around to be own,
Regardless, we must continue to strive...with both our hands!

LIFE I will appreciate, learn, care, grow, be contented and love you!!!

~quote of the day~

“...There is no vocabulary for love... love that's lived in but not looked at, love within the light of which all else is seen, the love within which all other love finds speech. This love is silent.”

— T.S. Eliot

~quote of the day~

"Whenever you've been touched by love, a heart-print lingers so that you're always reminded of the feeling of being cared for, knowing that, to someone, you mattered." - Oprah

My love for her....

It’s been 3 months we are together,
Nothing that can come between us,
Sometimes we do have our stuffs to bother,
But it ain’t going to slow us,

There are ups and downs in our relationship,
These are only little challenges to make us stronger,
We should not let ourselves fall from this ship,
As we are in this together and should be wiser,

My love for you will never change,
It will only get deeper and deeper,
I will not allow any short-change,
As we continue to love, care and pamper,

Sometimes I wonder why we are so alike,
Are we a couple made in heaven,
It’s like love at first sight and strike,
Funny it may sound even,

I do miss you every single moment,
Sometimes I just wish I could stop time,
So that we could treasure our little moment,
Missing you much until I lost track of time,

Dear orh dear,
Please forgive me of my little temper,
I vowed to change them in near,
As it would be for our better!


P/S: I LOVE YOU!!!

The Law of the Garbage Truck

One day I hopped into a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us..

My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly.

So I asked, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call "The Law of the Garbage Truck."

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.

Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.

Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the street.

The bottom line is that successful people don't let garbage trucks take over their day.

Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so…

"Love the people who treat you right. Forgive the ones who don't."

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it! Good Day

Things are to be used, People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character;

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

Eggs n Petrol.. Worth Reading..its Economics.....

Good concept!!!! Worth reading.....

A man eats two eggs each morning for breakfast.
When he goes to the grocery store he pays 60 cents a dozen.

Since a dozen eggs won't last a week he normally buys two dozens at a time.

One day while buying eggs he notices that the price has risen to 72 cents. The next time he buys groceries, eggs are 76 cents a dozen.

When asked to explain the price of eggs the store owner says, "The price has gone up and I have to raise my price accordingly".

This store buys 100 dozen eggs a day. He checked around for a better price and all the distributors have raised their prices.

The distributors have begun to buy from the huge egg farms. The small egg farms have been driven out of business.

The huge egg farms sell 100,000 dozen eggs a day to distributors. With no competition, they can set the price as they see fit. The distributors then have to raise their prices to the grocery stores. And on and on and on. As the man kept buying eggs the price kept going up. He saw the big egg trucks delivering 100 dozen eggs each day. Nothing changed there.

He checked out the huge egg farms and found they were selling 100,000 dozen eggs to the distributors daily.

Nothing had changed but the price of eggs.

Then week before Thanksgiving the price of eggs shot up to $1.00 a dozen. Again he asked the grocery owner why and was told, "Cakes and baking for the holiday".

The huge egg farmers know there will be a lot of baking going on and more eggs will be used. Hence, the price of eggs goes up.

Expect the same thing at Christmas and other times when family cooking, baking, etc. happen.

This pattern continues until the price of eggs is 2.00 a dozen. The man says," There must be something we can do about the price of eggs".

He starts talking to all the people in his town and they decide to stop buying eggs. This didn't work because everyone needed eggs.

Finally, the man suggested only buying what you need. He ate 2 eggs a day. On the way home from work he would stop at the grocery and buy two eggs. Everyone in town started buying 2 or 3 eggs a day.

The grocery store owner began complaining that he had too many eggs in his cooler. He told the distributor that he didn't need any eggs. Maybe wouldn't need any all week. The distributor had eggs piling up at his warehouse. He told the huge egg farms that he didn't have any room for eggs would not need any for at least two weeks.

At the egg farm, the chickens just kept on laying eggs. To relieve the pressure, the huge egg farm told the distributor that they could buy the eggs at a lower price.

The distributor said, "I don't have the room for the eggs even if they were free".

The distributor told the grocery store owner that he would lower the price of the eggs if the store would start buying again.

The grocery store owner said, "I don't have room for more eggs. The customers are only buying 2 or 3 eggs at a time".

"Now if you were to drop the price of eggs back down to the original price, the customers would start buying by the dozen again".

The distributors sent that proposal to the huge egg farmers. They liked the price they were getting for their eggs but, those chickens just kept on laying.

Finally, the egg farmers lowered the price of their eggs. But only a few cents.

The customers still bought 2 or 3 eggs at a time.
They said, "When the price of eggs gets down to where it was before, we will start buying by the dozen."

Slowly the price of eggs started dropping. The distributors had to slash their prices to make room for the eggs coming from the egg farmers.

The egg farmers cut their prices because the distributors wouldn't buy at a higher price than they were selling eggs for.

Anyway, they had full warehouses and wouldn't need eggs for quite a while. And those chickens kept on laying.

Eventually, the egg farmers cut their prices because they were throwing away eggs they couldn't sell.

The distributors started buying again because the eggs were priced to where the stores could afford to sell them at the lower price.

And the customers starting buying by the dozen again. Now, transpose this analogy to the gasoline industry.

What if everyone only bought $10.00 worth of gas each time they pulled to the pump? The dealer's tanks would stay semi full all the time. The dealers wouldn't have room for the gas coming from the huge tank farms. The tank farms wouldn't have room for the gas coming from the refining plants. And the refining plants wouldn't have room for the oil being off loaded from the huge tankers coming from the Middle East.

Just $10.00 each time you buy gas. Don't fill it up. You may have to stop for gas twice a week but,the price should come down.

Think about it. As an added note...When I buy $10.00 worth of gas that leaves my tank a little under half full. The way prices are jumping around, you can buy gas for $2.65 a gallon and then the next morning it can be $2.15. If you have your tank full of $2.65 gas you don't have room for the $2.15 gas.

You might not understand the economics of only buying two eggs at a time but, you can't buy cheaper gas if your tank is full of the high priced stuff.

Also, don't buy anything else at the gas station; don't give them any more of your hard earned money than what you spend on gas, until the prices come down..."

Please pass this concept around....reaching out to the mass... the world... the universe!!!!

sales figures...

sharing of my thoughts on the above subjects...

hi dear,

sales figures is just a number,
do not let the number defeat you,
believe in your self that you can achieve it,
no matter how hard/tough, once you have the believe,
eventually the sales will come your way,
you just need to be patient and keep trying,
sometimes you think you have done your best,
but what's your best?!?! your best is to "keep trying and never give up!!!" - that's your best and that's when the sales will start flowing in...

cheers, all the best and take care!!! :D

quote for the start of 2010...

“Often we don't listen to who we're meant to be because we're so busy trying to live out someone else's ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny.”

— Oprah

2009...2010!!!

As 2010 reigns,
We say goodbye to 2009,
Another new beginnings,
For many good nights,

Wishing you good health,
Looking young always,
Abundant of wealth,
Happiness in many ways,

*****HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010*****

Engineers as Story Tellers

Contributed by: Mr David T.E Lim BE (Civil) 1977 (taken from Melbourne Uni website)

Engineers are story tellers. They may not know this, but they are.

When I landed my first CEO job, I told this story to my staff. Two men are walking in the woods. Suddenly they hear a rustling in the leaves, and see a bear charging at them. One of them stoops to tie his shoelaces. The other, bewildered, tells him he's wasting his time. "You can't outrun the bear", he declared. The other man, having finished tying his shoelace, replies, "I'm not trying to, I'm just going to outrun you!"

I tell this to illustrate what competition in the 'real world' is like. The customer buys one car, one TV, one laptop at a time. If he buys your competitor's product, he doesn't buy yours. We are all trying to outrun the other fellow, and we start our training young. In school, you want to be higher up on the grade curve than the other guy. At work, you want that promotion faster.

But there is another element to this story. It's about the shoelaces. The man who tied his laces was obviously an engineer. First, he defined the problem: the bear wants to eat me. Second, he explores it further: I don't have anything to fight off the bear. And the bear can run faster than me. Third he begins to think of possible solutions. Perhaps they can both fight off the bear - two are better than one. Or they could run in different directions. Fourth: he evaluates the solutions. Even together, they could not possibly win the fight - the bear is too big. And if they run in separate directions, one of them will still get eaten, and it could be him. Neither are good solutions, so he goes back to step three. Are they other possible options? Yes, he can try to outrun the other guy. One of them will get eaten. It's only sensible that he doesn't leave that to luck. Finally, he implements his solution. To outrun the other guy, he's got to make sure he's got an advantage. He notices that their shoelaces have come loose from all the hiking on uneven ground. That presents an opportunity. He stoops to tie his shoelaces. And then he runs like the wind.

All this analysis, and only in a wink of an eye.

But this is what engineers are trained to do. They solve problems in a systematic, calculated way that carefully examines the problem, considers the various alternatives to solve the problem, and picks an option to implement.

Practiced long enough, it becomes second nature. We do it intuitively, in every circumstance, and not just in the field we specialise in. Yes, we figure out how to build longer bridges, taller structures, smaller devices, faster computers, harder plastics, stronger fibres and so on. But beyond all this, we are also good problem solvers in life - solving conflicts in community, providing leadership in social organisation. For the essence of our training is analysis and choice.

My career has taken me away from engineering per se into all kinds of fields - software development, economic development, port operations, shipping, industrial park development, corporate management - even politics! But in every new situation, I found myself stepping through the same paradigm - defining and exploring problems, generating and evaluating solutions, and then taking decisive steps to deal with the matter at hand.

Of course, 'real life' is not just about outrunning the bear. It's not all about competing and winning. In the end, we probably wouldn't have just run off. We might have stayed together to fend off the bear, or run in different directions, or perhaps we might have stayed put to let our friend get away. But you get the idea - we begin with the best of engineering solutions, and then we need to layer that with our values and beliefs. That's what makes us a really good engineer.

a day thinking of you...

thinking of you,
day and night,
missing of you,
without fear or fright,

wish you could be there,
to care and pamper me,
anytime now right here,
to hug and kiss me,

there are up and down,
norm in a relationship,
let not be frown,
as we steer clear our ship,

time is our essence,
as we seek our understanding,
assumption is our menace,
as it caused misunderstanding,

as i ponder,
what life will be without you,
you make me feel wonder,
just another day thinking of you...

Our Attitude Defines Life

Our Attitude Defines Life

Life is Best for those who want to Live it,

Life is Difficult for those who want to Analyze it,

Life is worst for those who want to Criticize it,

Our Attitude Defines Life...

Enjoy Your Life,

Laugh so Hard That even Sorrow Smiles at You,

Live Life so Well That even Death Loves to see you Alive,

Fight so Hard That even Fate accepts its Defeat.....

Our Attitude Defines Life

Our Attitude Defines Life

Life is Best for those who want to Live it,

Life is Difficult for those who want to Analyze it,

Life is worst for those who want to Criticize it,

Our Attitude Defines Life...

Enjoy Your Life,

Laugh so Hard That even Sorrow Smiles at You,

Live Life so Well That even Death Loves to see you Alive,

Fight so Hard That even Fate accepts its Defeat.....

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem , almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class And had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - family, children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions – Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.
The sand is everything else --The small stuff.
'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play With your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
'Take care of the golf balls first -- The things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled. 'I'm glad you asked'.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.'

How to say I Love You in 100 Languages

English - I love you

Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief

Albanian - Te dua

Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)

Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)

Armenian - Yes kez sirumem

Bambara - M'bi fe

Bengali - Ami tomake bhalobashi (pronounced: Amee toe-ma-kee bhalo-bashee)

Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu

Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah

Catalan - T'estimo

Cherokee - Tsi ge yu i

Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse

Chichewa - Ndimakukonda

Chinese

Cantonese - Ngo oiy ney a

Mandarin - Wo ai ni

Comanche - U kamakutu nu

(pronounced oo----ka-ma-koo-too-----nu) -- Thx Tony

Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)

Cree - Kisakihitin

Creol - Mi aime jou

Croatian - Volim te

Czech - Miluji te

Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig

Dutch - Ik hou van jou

Elvish - Amin mela lle (from The Lord of The Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien)

Esperanto - Mi amas vin

Estonian - Ma armastan sind

Ethiopian - Afgreki'

Faroese - Eg elski teg

Farsi - Doset daram

Filipino - Mahal kita

Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua

French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore

Frisian - Ik hald fan dy

Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort

Georgian - Mikvarhar

German - Ich liebe dich

Greek - S'agapo

Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo

Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw

Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia`oe

Hebrew

To female - "ani ohev otach" (said by male) "ohevet Otach" (said by female)

To male - "ani ohev otcha" (said by male) "Ohevet ot'cha" (said by female)

Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw

Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae

Hmong - Kuv hlub koj

Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta

Hungarian - Szeretlek

Icelandic - Eg elska tig

Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw

Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu

Inuit - Negligevapse

Irish - Taim i' ngra leat

Italian - Ti amo

Japanese - Aishiteru or Anata ga daisuki desu

Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene

Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka

Kiswahili - Nakupenda

Konkani - Tu magel moga cho

Korean - Sarang Heyo or Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida

Latin - Te amo

Latvian - Es tevi miilu

Lebanese - Bahibak

Lithuanian - Tave myliu

Luxembourgeois - Ech hun dech gaer

Macedonian - Te Sakam

Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu

Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu

Maltese - Inhobbok

Marathi - Me tula prem karto

Mohawk - Kanbhik

Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik

Nahuatl - Ni mits neki

Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni

Ndebele - Niyakutanda

Norwegian

Bokmaal - Jeg elsker deg

Nyonrsk - Eg elskar deg

Pandacan - Syota na kita!!

Pangasinan - Inaru Taka

Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo

Persian - Doo-set daaram

Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay

Polish - Kocham Ciebie

Portuguese - Eu te amo

Romanian - Te iubesc

Russian - Ya tebya liubliu

Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort

Serbian - Volim te

Setswana - Ke a go rata

Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')

Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan

Sioux - Techihhila

Slovak - Lu`bim ta

Slovenian - Ljubim te

Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo

Swahili - Ninapenda wewe

Swedish - Jag alskar dig

Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di

Surinam - Mi lobi joe

Tagalog - Mahal kita

Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li

Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe

Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen

Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu

Thai

To female - Phom rak khun

To male - Chan rak khun

Informal - Rak te

Tunisian - Ha eh bak

Turkish - Seni Seviyorum

Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu

Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo

Vietnamese

To female - Anh ye^u em

To male - Em ye^u anh

Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di

Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh

Yoruba - Mo ni fe

Zazi - Ezhele hezdege

Zuni - Tom ho' ichema

I wonder... I Ponder... I'm Relief... I'm Happy...!!!

Sometimes I wonder,

Is it just fate,

As I ponder,

But it's not too late,

Our progress have been well,

Full of interest & anticipation,

As we continue to dwell,

Hoping for more attention,

Is it a pair made in heaven,

With great thoughts & sharing,

Are we meant to be even,

Treating each other with grace & caring,

Days passed by with anticipation,

Carefully carved with great intention,

Together we enjoy with exhilaration,

No doubt this is god greatest creation,

LOVE is what makes us,

CARE is what bonds us,

HONESTY is what treats us,

ETERNITY is what moves us...

Today's Quote of the day...

"The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now. And the more grateful you are, the more you get." — Oprah

She’s the one…

Known her from a friend,

She seems kind and happy,

Always laughing and smiling without end,

I guess that’s her stress therapy,

Never know she can be so funny,

Often keeps me engaged with her laughter,

Sometimes I feel that she’s my sunny,

That keeps me warm and happy ever after,

Knowing her for a short period,

It felt like we’ve known for ages,

Being with her it’s like listening to an iPOD,

Notes of happiness that streams without pages,

Every time we meet our bond gets closer,

Through the sharing and caring,

Every time we talk we understand better,

Through the common understanding,

Never seen such a lovely person with an inner beauty,

The more I know her the more I glad I did,

She does have her own uniqueness and beauty,

Hoping she will always remains as she did,

Could this be the path meant for each other?

Something that we’ve been looking all these while,

Hope is what keeps us together,

It’s fate that will define this everlasting mile…

sometimes...

I wonder far for answers,
Coming back with regrets,
Finding myself with blunders,
Disbelief as I remain unrest,

I seek hard for replies,
Only to come back with unknowns,
I told myself it was just another lies,
Another way to make myself known,

Sometimes it’s just that hard,
Nothing comes easy without sweat,
Wishing that they could lower their guard,
Wisdom said I need to put a caveat,

Sometimes something may appear easy,
We should not judge the appearance,
It’s like writing a thousand words essay,
Not the quantity that counts but the remembrance,

I wish there could be an answer,
For everything in LIFE as I stumbled,
I would continue to work hard I swear,
For everything in LIFE as I embraced!