Qing Ming

Today mark the actual day where we visit our beloved’s graves to pay respect to them with offerings and at the same time sweep clean the area around the grave. It’s a time for family reunion where uncles, aunties, cousins, nephews and nieces come from various locations to meet and pray for our beloved. Offerings such as dim sum and huat kuehs are common sightings but some even brought their own home cooked food which were once the favorite’s dishes of our beloved ones.

As for me, I was supposed to visit my grandpa’s grave but due to the constraint that my parents together with my aunt and grandma and uncle all fit nicely into one car, they suggested that I stay on. And I did. I don’t mind driving another car since I only get to do this once a year but maybe they have other plans in their mind. And they were right, when they got home, they told me that luckily I did not went along caused they were stucked in 2 hours jam and couldn’t find a proper parking when they arrived. Hmmm… on my first thought, I feel relief I did not tagged along but after thinking further, I started to realize that it’s not too bad caused this is the only time of the year where I could visit my grandpa grave and I’m willing to trade the jams and hot sun for it. Yeah, most will think that, that’s probably just an excuse I give to myself so that I’ll feel better for not going but that wasn’t my intention at all. To make things worse, I did regretted a few times, especially each time when I thought of it again and again. But what to do, it already passed. Hence I can only move on and really hope that next year I’ll just do it!

Here’s something I put together for you grandpa although you passed away for nearly 10 years now.

You nurtured me when I was young,
You took care of all my needs,
Can still remember the lullaby that you sung,
Cuddling this little boy from his seeds,

Driving me to school each day,
Keeping me safe in the comfort seat,
I can remember all his advice till today,
Sit tightly was his usual advice of caveat,

Ah Gong, Ah Gong each time I yelled,
His reply always excite me with his wide beam,
Will never forget his smile that lasted,
Remains fresh in my memory forever seem,

Although you have gone for many years,
But all your teachings and advices will be carried on,
To remind me and to act as your eyes and ears,
That I will be a better person or at least a good son,

I regretted much that I missed my Qing Ming trip,
It was supposed to be a trip down memory lane,
Vowed to make it next year or I’ll be whip,
You will always be remembered in my heart!